who at the point of application identifies as a woman

Oh Cambridge University, what the very fuck? Et tu, New Hall?

Cambridge University’s women-only college, Murray Edwards, is not a college steeped in ancient tradition: it was founded as late as 1954 to to address the fact that Cambridge had the lowest proportion of women undergraduates of any university in the UK, shortly before the establishment of Cambridge’s women-only mature-student college, Lucy Cavendish (1965) and nearly a century later than their more stately sister Newnham in 1871. It’s a well-respected college, tough to get into and much-beloved by its aluminae.

There are 31 colleges at Cambridge, and three of them are women-only.

The last Oxford college to go co-ed was St Hilda’s in 2008. Most of the others went co-ed in the 70s and 80s. Those three women-only colleges at Cambridge are the last remaining in the UK. And now there are two, one of which is for mature and post-grad students only. So if you’re a young woman wanting to study a degree at a women-only college, for whatever reason, you’re now left with just one to apply to. Good luck with that.

While all three of their last-remaining-all-female colleges will already accept applications from men who apply under the Gender Recognition Act, Murray Edwards has now announced it is generously accepting applications based on the grounds of gender identity.  From anyone in fact ‘who at the point of application identifies as a woman’. Good grief, the awkward grammar alone is painful.

 

You can read the article here.

Germaine Greer has described the decision as ‘ridiculous’ : well of course she has. Who in their right mind wouldn’t? There is a wonderful irony in the fact that it was Charles Darwin’s son, Horace, who gifted his family home ‘The Orchard’ to the now-named Murray Edwards College in 1962. Is Charles turning in his grave? Do we really still need all-women colleges?

St Hugh’s College, Oxford, which first admitted men in 1986, has recently come under fire for having an all-male team for University Challenge. Men were first admitted to the college in 1986. Program host Jeremy Paxman observed:

“We could be forgiven for thinking they’d rather taken it over.”

Not all young women were over the moon about this, one citing it as part of her reasoning in choosing Lucy Cavendish for study. A man was quick to mock her concerns:

 

So who are the snowflakes in this current situation? The men who are so determined to hoist themselves into women’s spaces that they would happily demand entry into an all-woman college?  Or the females who dare to point out their discomfort when persons-with-penises take over their spaces?

I saw Jessica Swale’s wonderful ‘Blue Stockings’ at the Globe Theatre in 2013 and read the play only a few months ago, so it is fairly fresh in my mind how hard women have had to fight for a university education. They didn’t choose to identify into that difficulty.

They weren’t denied an education because of their love of pink, or their fluffy sparkly ladybrains: they were denied an education because men saw fit to deny it to them on the grounds of their sex.

You can read a fascinating introduction to the problems facing young women who wanted an education at the time here: it’s also a link to purchase a copy of Swale’s play, which I highly recommend.

In Michael Billington’s review of the play he said:

“Jessica Swale’s first play leaves you astonished at the prejudices the pioneers of women’s education had to overcome” and goes on to add “What is appalling is the hostility the women encounter, not least from male undergraduates who either bully or patronise their female contemporaries”

But yeah, times change, as Stevo H points out; we move on, that was then, this is now, who needs that crap anymore, eh? After all, there are no men-only colleges left. What possible reason could a woman have to want a study space free from men? Such snowflakery!

Let’s assume for a minute that I’m with you on that. I’m not, of course, although  I wouldn’t have wanted to go to a women-only college myself. But let’s assume I am & we all agree that women’s colleges are no longer needed.

What troubles me the most is that Cambridge isn’t just saying ‘What the heck, let’s go co-ed!’  The decision is dressed up like some great progressive step forward.

The fact that the young women at the college will have to take their part in reinforcing some man’s illusion that he is female- yet still pretend that they’re in a female only space- is startlingly sexist and regressive.

Yet Kate Litman, women’s officer for the college claims that students are “thrilled” by the news.  Not just ok with it, but THRILLED! I can just imagine them jumping in the aisles of their lecture halls! All filled with a warm, gooey feeling inside; a rising excitement and anticipation of penises inside their hitherto penis-free spaces.

And, you know what? I call bullshit. I don’t believe that they are thrilled. There are reasons why women apply to female-only colleges. They may be multitudinous and complex reasons, but one thing we can be pretty damn sure of is that a woman who applies to a women-only college does it FOR A REASON and that reason is not to play handmaiden to a man so enthralled to gender stereotypes that he thinks he can have the foggiest idea of what it is like to be a woman.

There are 130 university colleges in the UK and only three of them are women-only. What kind of arrogance would demand to be allowed into such a space?

That awkward question is covered by the rallying cry ‘But transwomen are women!’ which is designed to put paid to any further discussion.

Ms Litman sounds as if she has partaken of afternoon tea with the gender fairy, or at very least swallowed a GIRES publication, adding “it is absolutely right that all women should have the chance to study here, no matter what gender they were assigned at birth.”

And look! Quelle surprise! GIRES have made a statement too, observing darkly and somewhat ominously that they welcome the decision “to respect and support all gender diverse people”. Because of course, not letting men-who-call-themselves-women into a women’s college would be disrespectful and unsupportive and – wait for it – TRANSPHOBIC.

 

And there we have it, in a nutshell. Nobody wants to be called transphobic now, do they?

Smile and wave, girls, smile and wave.

 

 

 

 

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‘My mother-heart bleeds’

Today I’ve been reading through the 418 comments (and counting) on my ‘Transtopia’ article. That figure doesn’t include replies to comments so I don’t really have an accurate figure on the overall comments made: let’s just call it ‘a lot’. Many are from the parents- mostly mothers-  of children who have just ‘come out’ as ‘trans’.

What I see in the words of these parents, and in the voices of the parents who email me (so many go unanswered, I’m sorry)  is a deep and fierce love for their children and a determination to support them while keeping a strong grip on reality.

Society and the media respond to this by calling them unsupportive, uneducated & transphobic.  This is untrue and they deserve better. Many of them are highly intelligent people who have researched the subject extensively.

Here’s a comment I made on 4thwavenow earlier this year:

Parents who resist the current gender narrative are not selfish or unsupportive

what these parents are is silenced.

So I’ve gone through their comments and taken just a very small sample of their words to share with you, because a short post on my blog is not much but it is better than nothing.

I’ve tried not to quote the same parent more than once, although there are likely to be a couple of accidental repetitions. These are the voices of parents who can see what is going on; the voices of parents who love their children and want what is best for their happiness; the voices of parents who deserve to be heard.

My 16 year old daughter is having Gender Dysphoria. I feel devastated and I am going through the same thoughts and fears that you were going through…

I am a mother of a 14 year old daughter who feels she is a boy. Deep in my deepest heart I know that she is not…

My daughter was in this same exact situation. A “normal” girl until the internet got its hands on her…

The fact that I affirmed and supported her social transition for an entire year, makes her situation all the more challenging….

My 15 daughter came home from 2 weeks with friends thinking she is a boy. She had facebook messaged her grandmother that she was trans…

I have Kaiser (insurance) and they will fully cover my (18 yrs) daughter’s top surgery, much to my dismay…

It’s truly like she’s been sucked into a cult and I don’t know how to get her out. Her best friend is doing the same thing…

Where is the intelligent, thoughtful journalism on this?…

Our daughter is out there somewhere flying through Outer Space. She has destroyed herself from the inside out. There are times I fall to the floor and cannot get up.

Trust me, it is no picnic for families to see an out-of-the-blue transitioning of your young adult kid…

I am just being grateful for time and the fact that I have four more years while my daughter is still a minor…

As the mother of a young adult male who suddenly decided after internet bingeing that he was really a woman, every time I hear “Would you rather have a dead son or a live daughter?” I just want to scream…

The therapist would have gladly written a prescription for T had I not been so vociferous about all my concerns and doubts …

My biggest fear is that if I keep pushing her to stop binding, she is going to get a mastectomy at the first opportunity…

My daughter has an IQ of 150, yet she’s been sucked into this cult of nonsense. ..

Every session that my daughter had with the therapist was asking her “so what is your next plan for transitioning?”..

I am a parent of a beautiful girl who thinks she’s a trans and in a secret relationship with another trans…

My daughter is also brilliant, but at the same time on the autism spectrum…

She is already having back problems but refuses to give up the binder…

I have two years before my daughter turns 18 and I know I am running against the clock…

She wears her too small falling apart binder (which I bought six months ago because she was using duck tape and bandages)…

My kid (just over 18) does NOT want to hear about any health risks related to any aspect of transition. Like, fingers in the ears, la la la, can’t hear you…

My daughter thinks she’s a gay boy: I don’t even know what to think on that one…

My daughter’s gender therapist fully and nonchalantly agreed with my observation that groups of girls are doing this: entire friend groups!…

My 18yr old daughter now looks like a 13 year old boy…

Last year she was ok with being lesbian. This year she told me “ew that’s gross!! That’s not me!”…

Another young lesbian lost to the infectious misogyny of the trans trend…

If there was a louder narrative that they were strong young women rejecting sexualisation in a way society would not sneer at, perhaps that would help….

What a lot of us parents are experiencing is a sudden change in our kids, with groups of girls in school all doing it and having to pretend that they’re suddenly gay boys…

My 19 year old daughter said to me “I know there are girls just doing this and they are not really trans but I REALLY AM!!”…

Suddenly there are thousands of them, identifying their teenage dysphoria as being caused by being ‘born in the wrong body’, surrounded by adults who are eager to tell them it is true…

The treatment team for my daughter affirmed her choice in every way and recommended that we immediately start hormone suppression…

Our kids are basically guinea pigs…

She was one of those teens that never showed any sign of wanting to be a boy until a heaping dose of social media…

The tension around this issue is unbearable. She is so concerned about how others perceive her, and seems to think being called ‘he’ will magically solve all her other issues…

She goes by male pronouns everywhere now, but is just as depressed as ever…

I’ve even had child services called on me for not allowing my child to transition since I didn’t care for one therapists approach, which was to hand my child a pamphlet on how to transition…

I am feeling really stressed and hopeless. I am terrified for my daughter. I tried to talk to her again. I really believe this is dysphoria with life not gender…

This trans stuff has messed with her mind and I don’t see how weekly therapy is helping undo all of this damage…

I thought surely after the autism diagnosis they would see what I see, especially after I told them about all the kids she knows that think they’re trans…

It was so obvious she was trying to fit a stereotype that she was not accustomed to. It is like she was an actor in a play…

In 6 months she went from lesbian to trans and wanting testosterone and top surgery…

I feel that this rapid transness is some kind of coping mechanism for whatever my daughter is feeling uncomfortable or unsure about…

I have come a long way from the grief and anguish I felt last year, although it is still the first thing I think of on waking, and the last thing at night…

My daughter was very happy and very confident before she discovered the trans community. Now she is fighting her own biology and getting more confused….

I tried therapy for myself, but the therapist just could not relate to this at all and I found it more annoying than helpful. In addition, she also kept pushing me just to accept my daughter’s transition as if it was no big deal…

When she got on the internet at age 15, things went downhill quickly. I would say she was sucked down a dark hole…

My mother-heart bleeds…

At her current treatment center of 35 girls with suicidal idealogy, 6 are trans and 5 of them are called by male names/pronouns and came from progressive families and communities that were supportive in their desire to transition…

I beg you. Help me…

I believe it is more of a defense mechanism as she is sick of men bothering her…

She had been suffering from acute anxiety and depression. I am terrified of alienating her, or pushing her into the arms of a trans cult…

The binding really bothers me. Had I realized that binding is a form of self harm, I would have never allowed it. Now it’s too late…

My daughter said she is trans in May of this year. I found out her school has been letting her use a boy name and male pronouns…

She already suffers from major depression and has Aspergers. It all seems so hopeless. I’m losing my daughter and I can’t do anything about it…

I told her I can’t just blindly tell her it’s ok to “cut her boobs off” as she says and/or take testosterone, call her he…

My daughter is now 13 and believes she may be transgender…

She said she determined this through the internet and seeing what others around her looked like and what they identified as…

The same therapist who was treating my child for other mental issues for some time before the trans revelation, now joyfully refers to my child by the new name and has gleefully stated that all the other prior mental health issues are just because my child now identifies as transgender…

On the day I read it (the Transtopia article) there was an opportunity to speak to my self diagnosed transgender teenager about it. Using some of your arguments I got her to a point where she said she now has a lot of thinking to do because what I said made sense!…

Both of my nephews, 13 and 15, know that this movement is crazy, but they’re also aware that there is a gag order about discussing it…

I am so angry at the many “experts” who happily took our money, scared us into believing them, never encouraging us to question anything — and now I have to figure it all out by myself.

Ten minutes after linking to this post on Twitter, I received this response.

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