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In late 2015, my teenage daughter Jessie declared she was transgender and the experience tugged us into a rabbit hole of Orwellian double-speak and general insanity. I read so much during that time and it was such a vast learning curve that I felt compelled to bring all the threads together in an article. I was especially struck by the exponential surge in the number of teenage girls who were ‘identifying’ as boys, usually young lesbians and usually after lengthy sessions on social media.
After Jessie desisted, I wanted to share what I’d read as well as what I’d learned and eventually I finished writing an article which contained over 100 links. Jessie added a short postscript of her own and I was delighted when 4thwavenow published it in December 2016 under the title ‘A Mum’s Voyage Through Transtopia – a tale of love and desistance’.
Before you ask me any questions; before you critcise or praise my stance on transitioning kids, or the appropriation of womanhood by men, please read that. It’s where it all began.
After Jessie re-realised she was a girl and things settled down at home, I expected to put my time in Transtopia behind me and move on. Instead I became more fascinated- and angry- with the culture of misogyny and homophobia which underlies transgender theory.
For without stereotypes there can be no ‘brave transgender children’. Without the dolls and the pink tutus, a love of glitter, a gentle nature and a will to dance, what could possibly make girls of the little boys of ‘My Transgender Summer Camp’? What other than her love of Batman, karate and jumping around could make that short-haired, fierce little girl into a boy trapped in a female body? A feeling? How does a boy feel? How does a girl feel?
Without sexism, there can be no transgenderism. Without the idea that there is a ‘right’ or a ‘wrong’ way to be a boy or a girl there would be no need to beguile and medicate these kids in an attempt to make them ‘fit in’. Our current culture of blind affirmation is not doing anyone any favours. It is nothing short of abusive to tell a child that they are ‘wrong’, that they have been ‘born in the wrong body’ or that medication and surgery can make them into the opposite sex. Affirming a trans-identified child- and many of these kids are LGB, autistic, have suffered trauma, abuse or loss, or have co-existing mental health issues- is to set them down a path to becoming a life-long medical patient.
This first step down this pathway begins with agreeing with a confused girl that she is a boy. 21st century kids who undergo social transition young frequently progress to puberty blockers. Children given puberty blockers almost always go one to take cross sex hormones. This combination leaves a child sterile and without sexual function.
What would have happened if I had affirmed my child when she told me she was a boy?
I would have called her by her new name and ‘he/him’ pronouns.
This would have told her that I believed she was not a girl, that I thought she had been ‘born wrong’ and needed fixing in order to be her ‘authentic’ self. It would also have affirmed her delusion, every day.
I would have paid for her to see a private therapist.
Most private therapists will tell you trans-identified children become suicidal if not transitioned. The reality is, there is no data to support the idea that they are more at risk than any other child being seen under child mental health services.
I would have accessed my child cross-sex hormones.
Don’t believe those who tell you about lengthy waiting lists. If you are broke and follow the NHS route, yes. If you’ve got a couple of hundred quid spare, you can get hormones for your child quickly and easily. Gender GP is just one of the services that has prescribed testosterone for girls as young as twelve. Before we jump to blame the parents, consider: is it any wonder parents resort to this when they’ve been told their child may kill themselves otherwise?
Girls on testosterone often develop acne and male pattern baldness. They grow beards. The beards, baldness and deepened voice are irreversible. They are also at higher risk of heart attack and other diseased and illnesses. Most doctors recommend a hysterectomy within 5 years of being on testosterone.
Top surgery would be next.
Why wouldn’t it be? By this point everyone would have been using my child’s new name and pronouns. Everyone would be agreeing with her that she was a boy. She would probably be using a binder, with all the health risks that entails. It would seem like natural progression to have an elective double mastectomy. In the USA, girls as young as 13 have undergone this procedure.
She might have chosen to go on to have phalloplasty, where the skin of the arm is stripped to form a tube of flesh that’s attached between the legs. As you can imagine, a lot can go wrong with this procedure.
And there we would have it.
My dysphoric child would have been left dependent on drugs and the affirmation of others to maintain this illusion for the rest of her life. And you know what? She could still never be a man.
Gender identity politics is, perhaps, the most unlikely youth movement we could have imagined. Far from rebelling against the stereotypes that were beginning to be broken down by the GenXers, Gens Y&Z seem intent on re-enforcing the differences between the sexes. Way to go, guys.
Coming of age in the 80s and 90s it felt like a more diverse, inclusive world was on the horizon. Every generation feels like this, that their generation is going to conquer the world and change everything. These revolutions tend to happen about once a decade.
‘To dance beneath the diamond sky with one hand waving free’ – the dream that spanned more than 40 years.
We see the pattern in what is now crassly called ‘the music industry’. The 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s all had diverse music styles emergent. Yet the spectacular musical revolutions seem to have stopped with rave culture.
The biggest revolution of the last twenty years- perhaps of the last two thousand years- is of course, the ubiquity of the internet.
On the internet, you can be anybody. You can be male, female, old young, a brain surgeon or an anime puppy. You can choose your identity and it is real, well obviously, you spun it yourself. IRL, as we now call it, things are not so clear cut. We do not get to choose how quick we are to learn, or fit in, the sex or culture we are born into, or the way we are raised as children. Unlike the world of cyberspace, the things that form our identity are not entirely within our control. But, as has been pointed out by so many people before me, kids under 20 have spent most of their tween & teen years on the Internet, inhabiting a world their parents neither shared nor understood. They grew up in two different worlds. In the online world, as they discovered, you really can make it up as you go along.
I take a break from writing this article to make some coffee and as I scroll through my facebook feed I come across this piece from the Guardian which so totally illustrates my point that I let my coffee go cold to add it to this piece.
“In a game you can choose your gender. Go in as female and no one knows you’re biologically male. You can escape real life and have a completely new identity,” a boy called Hannah told the Guardian.
The article tells us that before Hannah had heard the word ‘trans’, the internet had become an anonymous space “to create a version of herself that felt more authentic than her real-world body. Through her teenage years, the online community around Roblox would help her learn about transitioning, support her as she came out to her family and even help fund her gender-affirming surgery.”
The article concludes by telling the reader “Hannah is still waiting for the operations that will make her feel as authentic as she does in her Roblox avatar.”
From the Guardian article
There’s a sociological term, ‘hyperreality’ which is the state of being unable to discern the difference between what we see on the screen and what happens in the real world.
This is where we are.
Kids who aren’t old enough to buy a pint are ordering online hormones to change themselves into idealised versions of the people they are online.
Laura Higgins, director of community safety and digital civility at Roblox, says of the game, “this is real life for kids, they don’t differentiate between on- and offline.”
I’m not saying there isn’t some great music being produced. But just maybe this century’s young people have missed out on their musical revolution because they’re too busy gazing into their own navels and reinventing themselves instead.
One of the biggest influences on the portrayal of young women in the music industry is probably also linked to our ever shortening attention spans and our endless demands for excitement and extremes. And boxes.
The tenet of fuckability
The tenet of fuckability is that women can do anything they like, as long as they look fuckable while they’re doing it. The message behind it reinforces the idea that this is the most important aspect of womanhood.
21st century young women in the music industry rarely last long before falling for the the ‘fuckability’ condition: this week ‘icon of body positivity’, teenager Billy Eilish appears, bleached, painted and polished, half-naked on the cover of Vogue telling the world “I feel more like a woman, somehow”.
Eilish’s Instagram post of the cover set a record by getting over a million ‘likes’ in less than six minutes.
“She’s just living her best life,” says middle-child, just a year younger than Eilish herself.
I’m not blaming Eilish or mocking her, or judging her. She’s a talented young woman, I’m listening to her music as I write. Of course, as middle-child points out, Eilish (mum it’s eye-lish not Ay-lish) is under no obligation to be anybody’s role model.
I’m just heaving a little sigh for the predictability of the striptease and wondering at the tenacity of the idea that performing sexualised femininity makes one more of a woman.
Don’t wanna play that game?
You can follow the trajectory of actor Elliot Page. Maybe you too were a boy all along. Stop smiling. Cut off your hair and your breasts.
The world will love you for it.
What could be more authentic?
Cherchez the power and influence of gender identity.
It’s so entrenched in modern thinking that large numbers of famous or powerful women from the past are being claimed as trans – they must have been because they ‘acted like men’ or they wore men’s clothing.
Sex, sex, sex
While this generation may talk about sex a lot, share more naked pictures of themselves and watch more porn, there’s a strong suggestion that they’re ‘doing it’ far less than previous generations. In a US study spanning 200-2018, one in three men age 18 to 24 reported having no sexual activity in the past year. Students of both sexes also appear to be having less sex than their predecessors.
Studies suggests girls are put off sex by the representations they see in porn. Some people suggest boys are too. 21st century children move from the pink and blue toy shops, seamlessly into the hyper-sexualised realms of online pornography. No wonder kids want out.
In the UK, a 2019 study suggested everybody was having less sex. Perhaps some people are just too busy thinking about their gender identity to actually get their clothes off.
Of course, add the effects of lockdown to that (the studies I mention were all done before COVID19) & it seems unlikely those figures have shot up in the last 18 months. We can also presume everyone’s been spending even more time online than usual. It’s not looking good.
We’ve got one hell of a lot of work for sociologists and psychologists coming up.
Far from breaking down barriers, advocates of the sanctity of gender identity scuttle hither and thither building ever more boxes to describe identities whilst simultaneously crying “We don’t believe in the confines of gender!”
Are you a gender-fluid feminine-presenting demi-boy?
Or do you identify as a perioriented grey asexual?
Are you skoliosexual?
Whatever. It’s likely you have your own flag.
Even those who should be old enough to know better are jumping on the train: parents wanting to be ‘down with the kids’ are popping out non-binary offspring, left right and centre.
When my eldest was little, I had a few friends who thought they had Indigo kids. Indigo kids were ostensibly a new blueprint of humanity; spiritually awakened, in tune with their psychic abilities, hyper-empathic yet strong and rebellious old souls. No true new age family was complete without at least one. Non-binary kids are the new Indigo kids, minus the laudable aspirations.
Tyrannical trans toddlers
I was at a conference a few years ago where the headmaster of a well-known school was addressing the room about the school’s wonderful trans-inclusive policy. He was very, very proud of it. A couple of girls from the school had made a presentation about gender dysphoria and double mastectomies. The room applauded. It was surreal. If I remember rightly a mediocre song about being yourself was sung, accompanied by a couple of chords on the guitar. A long-haired boy who obviously had a serious eating disorder, in a skirt so short we could almost see his underwear, stood up & read a poem about being trans & oppressed. At least I think it was a poem, I was focused on the obvious eating disorder, & it was a while ago now.
While the headteacher was speaking, a young woman with blue hair & black eyeliner burst unannounced into the back of the hall. She interrupted him, announced she was non-binary and complained loudly about cleaning staff repeatedly removing sanitary bins from the boys toilets.
All eyes were on her. The headmaster was embarrassed & apologetic . He said that the school had already spent a lot of money giving the teachers trans-appropriate training and they did not have enough money left to train the cleaning staff. He was almost pleading with her. The young woman waxed eloquent for a little longer. I was gobsmacked that her obviously planned interruption was considered acceptable, so I missed some of what she said. The headteacher, humiliated, apologised some more. I found it hard to believe what I was seeing.
At the lunch break I approached the headteacher, wanting to discuss what resources the school used. He was not exactly rude but he was brusque and immediately told me he had no time to talk to me. He turned his back on me and left the room. He went and sat in a window seat in the hallway just outside the conference room and spent the entire break placating the blue-haired young woman who had sabotaged the presentation that he had clearly worked so hard on.
The girls glorifying elective double mastectomies needed educating about the realities of surgery.
The boy needed help for his mental health issues & eating disorder.
The blue-haired non-binary girl needed a detention & a meeting with her parents re inappropriate behaviour.
And the message for the head teacher? Your compliance will never be enough.
Adults in positions of authority have renounced their power to tyrannical, deluded children. Kids need boundaries and they need to know that they can trust adults to keep them safe. We are failing them badly and it won’t end well.
So while everyone is telling themselves it’s a youth driven movement, look a bit closer and it starts getting murky. You can’t help asking, “who’s really driving the trans train?”
Gender identity politics is a state-sanctioned cult supported by mainstream media, political parties, corporate businesses & the many clinicians who profit from it.
it’s really not about the gay
The gender identity cult comes under the umbrella of LGBT but it has little to do with gay rights. Lesbian and gay people, who are often gender non-conforming, already suffer from stereotypical representations of how men and women are ‘supposed’ to behave. A cult based around reinforcing, affirming and protecting those stereotypes is hardly going to be doing them any favours. Already the LGB is being told that describing yourself as ‘same sex attracted‘ is transphobic and that any form of LGB organisation without the T is ‘hateful’. This is not an equal rights movement. Trans ideology demands that the state give it recognition and protection; it demands that everybody pays lip-service to its beliefs and that women and girls surrender their own rights because trans rights are more important. It even demands that it is protected against being offended.
It cost Kate Scottow over a thousand pounds for causing a certain ‘lawyer’ on Twitter ‘annoyance, inconvenience or needless anxiety’ via use of the phrase ‘a pig in a wig’.
The concept of ‘gender identity’ has been sold to vulnerable kids and young people who have been duped into thinking they invented it. If our gender identity was such an intrinsically essential part of the human condition, don’t you think somebody just might have started talking about it at some point in the last three thousand years? Never mind the last 3,000 years – are people over 40 really so unbelievably stupid that we didn’t notice we had a gender identity until some narcissistic, gender-fluid teenager started telling us about how they didn’t have one?
“The young,” as my old gran used to say, “they think they invented everything.”
This raises some important questions.
What other revolutionary young people’s movement is taught to them in schools?
What other revolutionary young people’s movement is funded and supported by banks, multinationals and governments?
What other revolutionary young people’s movement has a government which not only flies its flag but changes its social media logo to its flag?
What other revolutionary young people’s movement has a police force that lines up to salute it?
If Barclays, Starbucks and Macdonalds support your movement; if the government posts your flag on its Twitter account; if your school is applauding what you’re doing and the cops are after your approval- I hate to break it to you but you are not living on the edge & you are not breaking boundaries.
For the police, big business and the government, this is a chance to get young people on side. Like the parents of non-binary children they can show off their ‘woke’ credentials- while at the same time re-affirming the stereotypes of male and female behaviour. What’s not to like?
It is astonishing to see how young TRAs have been fooled by this. They honestly believe that their elders have never questioned stereotypes or considered gender. There’s so much drama, self-importance and navel-gazing that they don’t see they’re being taken for a ride.
You’re a girl who feels like a boy? You have a vivid imagination and a grasp on how different your life might have been if you had been born the opposite sex. Maybe you would have been happier. Maybe you feel this very, very deeply and it hurts. You’re a boy who feels like a girl? Maybe you would feel safer in a world where you were valued for wrapping yourself in a cloak of pretty, feminine things. Maybe you would be happier. Life is hard, and unfair. How about you get out there and change all that? How about you get out there and smash some stereotypes?
Who is promoting gender ideology?
The institutions of education for a start. Kindergartens and pre-schools, Primary schools, Secondary schools. And once young people get to university, where we would expect them to use their education to unpack, question and contemplate the things taught to them as children, they discover that universities are no longer places that advocate for free speech. They are safe spaces. Spaces where the doctrine cannot be questioned and young people whose ideas or identities are challenged or questioned feel they are ‘unsafe’.
Spaces where debate is not welcome and controversial voices are no platformed.
“It’s considered reasonable to publicly hound a female academic — if she’s branded a ‘TERF”reported Julie Bindel in the Spectator.
Kathleen Stock reports “‘My main problem is non-trans colleagues, in some cases very senior, who announce to the world that I’m a “danger” to the safety and wellbeing of trans students at my university and that my ideas themselves are “violent”.’
“What is happening to feminist heretics in universities across the world is the new face of sexual harassment,” concludes Bindell.
Our culture now seems accepting of the idea that it is the trappings of femininity that define what a woman is. If a woman does not perform these she is somehow lesser. Women are not told this directly, but when a man can pick up these trappings, adorn himself with them and have the world accept him as a woman, then what other interpretation can there be?
This week it was announced that some UK universities including Edinburgh and Newcastle will be ‘outlawing microaggressions’. University staff will be given a list of banned ‘microinsults’ that must not pass their lips, including ‘I used to want to be a boy when I was a child‘ and ‘all women hate their periods’. Lecturers must also not place ‘excess focus on anatomical sex markers’.
In 2019, a judge ruled that Maya Forstater’s belief that there are two sexes, male and female and that sex is immutable, was ‘not worthy of respect in democratic society’.
So here we are.
Sex discrimination really is a thing of the past, although not quite in the way we’d hoped for.
Governments & big business want to be seen to be ‘down with the kids’. They are the future voters, they are the ones who’ll put their student loans in the banks which sport a rainbow logo (often while investing in countries with an abysmal record on gay rights). Organisations who received government funding and charity status, such as Mermaids and Stonewall, have a vested interest in the perpetuation of trans ideology: it’s what keeps them in a job. Transactivists generally, whether trans-identifed people themselves or parents who have affirmed their child’s ‘identity’ have an awful lot invested in the rest of us going along with it. Not to mention autogynephilic men who want access to women’s spaces. So do surgeons who wish to carry out ground breaking experimental work in the Morreau-ish domain of splicing and recreating body parts. There seems to be no shortage of young women offering themselves up as canvases. Then there are the therapists, consultants and clinicians who are in it for the money. As for the profits the drug companies are making from medicating dysphoric youth, that needs an essay all of its own…
I’m not a Liberal Democrat, or a Conservative, or a whatever-it-is-that-people-in-the-Labour-party-call-themselves-these-days but, when there doesn’t seem to be a political party in the entire country willing to admit to knowing what a woman is, attending an event such as this seemed important. So on the evening of 12th April 2021, I attended a Zoom event organised by Liberal Voice for Women.
LVW maintain that “Women and girls are female and, as such, have distinct needs and interests. Only by basing policy in such biological reality can women maintain their rights and combat sexism.”
As recently as a decade ago, this would have been seen as a fairly common-sense approach to protecting the rights of women and children. Now, in the current political climate, it is no surprise that LVW reveals that “some of us have experienced unpleasant behaviour within the party, particularly, and ironically, from some male activists wearing the badge of ‘feminist’.”
The event was chaired by Councillor Alison Jenner
Nonetheless, LVW had organised this sell-out event, three talks touching on how liberal principles could be applied to the treatment of children with gender dysphoria, followed by a Q&A. The event was chaired by LibDem councillor Alison Jenner. I was looking forward to it: the speakers were all women I admire and registering for my ticket early turned out to be a good move: several of my friends left it too late, which did leave me wondering exactly how a Zoom event sells out? Is this the new Glastonbury?
The LibDems may not be speaking out for women’s sex-based rights, but neither are any of the other parties (and yes, you can include the Women’s Equality Party in that). The fact that LVW has been established fills me with hope that UK party politics may again begin to concern itself with women’s sex-based concerns and rights. Inextricably tied up in the battle for women’s sex based rights is the battle to protect children suffering from gender dysphoria. When we say a man can become a woman, it eventually follows that a girl can become a boy. This is a relatively new ideology: when Ray Davies sang ‘girls will be boys and boys will be girls’ we can be pretty sure he wasn’t referring to giving ten year olds puberty blockers.
After the event was over, I found myself wishing that members of all political parties could have heard these three wise women speak. It would have been absurd to suggest there was hatred or bigotry in the words spoken by any of them, just a deep concern and desire to protect the rights and safety of children in a climate that seems exponentially determined to ignore them.
So here’s my report on the meeting, with pencil sketches by Michèle.
The event started at 7pm. Jenner invited us to put our Zoom screens on ‘speaker view’, our questions in the chat bar and added with a twinkle, “help yourselves to whatever drinks and nibbles you wish.”
I definitely had that side of things under control, a chilled can of Pepsi Max Cherry a banana and two bags of hula hoops by my side. Living it large.
RIP Shirley Williams
Alison said that before we started she’d like to take a moment to reflect on the life of ‘towering intellect’ Shirley Williams, who died on 12/4/21. Williams was one of the founder members of the Social Democrat Party (which, through a series of incarnations over several decades, kind of ‘became’ the LibDems) “spending 50 years at the centre of British & International political debate”.
The Liberal Voice for Women
These LVW meetings, Jenner said, would focus on topics “whichwe feel our party needs to address”. The LVW was disappointed that it had “proposed a motion on protecting children from treatment with puberty blockers” but that it had not been accepted at the Spring conference. LVW had also hoped to hold a fringe session of conference, continued Jenner, but it had not been allowed. You can see the motion here, on the LVW website. Jenner hopes the motion will be debated this autumn & that party policy can be changed. I hope her optimism will not be unfounded.
The party seems to be fairly thoroughly captured-in fact, as LVW tweeted the next day, even references to this ‘First Do No Harm’ event had been removed from the LibDems’ facebook page, although they were later reinstated.
A Short Biography of the Speakers
Jenner noted that Brunskell-Evans, O’Malley and Davies-Arai were “three women with expertise and experience” who the speakers had hoped to host at the fringe session and she was “delighted to be able to welcome (them) to our own space.”
She concluded by giving us a brief biography of each.
Dr Heather Brunskell-Evans is a philosopher and social theorist with particular expertise in the politics of ethics medicine, the sexed body, and gender. She is an academic, co-founder of the Women’s Human Rights Campaign and co-author of the Declaration on Women’s Sex-based Rights. She has co-edited, with Michele Moore, the books Transgender Children- Born in Your Own Body and Transgender Children and Young People. Heather campaigns against the scandal of gender identity development medicine and for children’s human rights to freedom from bodily harm and from gender. Her latest book is Transgender Body Politics.
Stella O’Malley is a psychotherapist who works in private practice in Ireland, specialising in parenting, family dynamics, and working with teenagers with emphasis on mental health and wellbeing. She is the author of Cotton Wool Kids and Bully-Proof Kids, and more recently Fragilewhich explores the reasons why people are feeling more anxious and stressed than ever before. Stella was presenter of the 2018 Channel 4 documentary Trans Kids: It’s Time to Talk. Stella also contributed a chapter to the book Inventing Transgender Children and Young People. She is a Clinical Advisor for the Society for Evidence-based Gender Medicine, a founding member of the International Association of Therapists for Desisters and Detransitioners, and the lead facilitator for the Gender Dysphoria Support Network.
Stephanie Davies-Arai is the founder and Director of Transgender Trend, the leading UK organisation in the call for evidence-based healthcare for gender dysphoric children and science-based teaching in schools. She was founder and parent governor of a small school in East Sussex and spent over 8 years training staff and running courses for parents & pupils as well as designing policies. Author of Communicating with Kids, Stephanie is a communications skills trainer who has provided training and workshops for teachers and parents for over 20 years.
Brunskell-Evans was first to speak, telling us she was going to start by making a bold statement.
“What I want to say is that the LDP has an extremely illiberal official position on transgender identity and children. I’ll demonstrate this by taking a statement the party made about the judicial review of the Tavistock and puberty blockers, as well as other official statements on the Tavistock and transgender identity which were made by the party’s leader, Ed Davy and Lena Moran, the spokeswoman for foreign affairs.”
Heather gave us a quick review of the Autumn 2020 review of GIDS at the Tavistock, carried out at the High Court in London and brought by Keira Bell, an ex-patient. She reminded us that Bell was referred to the Tavistock age 16, “believing becoming male would solve her problems”. Heather also reminded us that recently the lower age for prescribing puberty blockers to gender dysphoric children has been dropped from 16 to the early stages of puberty, which for some children is as young as 9 or 10.
Bell’s “deep distress about her sexed body” and and psychological issues were not addressed and she was referred for puberty blockers after just three appointments. Heather tells us that GIDS “(allowed Keira) to run with the unrealisable fantasy that she could actually change sex”.
Keira, now 24, went on to take testosterone a year later and have a double mastectomy when she was twenty. Subsequently she accepted herself as female and stopped taking testosterone. You can read her story in her own words here.
Bell asserted to the court that such a medical pathway is unlawful since children can’t give consent to these life-changing and irreversible treatments.
Brunskell-Evans said it was important to acknowledge that during the case the term ‘transgender child’ was never used, but rather the phrase ‘a child with gender dysphoria’. She drew our attention to the difference implications of these two phrases.
Expert witnesses had provided the court with evidence concerning the dangers of puberty blockers, including sterility (children on blockers almost invariably progress to cross-sex hormones) & lack of sexual enjoyment and function as adults. The court’s attention was also drawn to the lack of evidence for the efficacy of puberty blockers in improving mental health. (A recent NICE study upholds this position.)
The court concluded that due to the ‘experimental nature’ of puberty blockers and that they are “a crucial stepping stone to cross-sex hormones and eventually surgical interventions, children aged 16 and under have a reduced capacity to consent to medical transition” or understand its consequences in adulthood.
“One might ask therefore,” speculated Heather, referring to the LibDems response to this, “in which moral universe, or view of social justice for children- for children’s autonomy; body integrity; the right to be safeguarded and so on- in which moral universe could the court’s ruling be refuted?”
In response to the court’s ruling, the LibDems had released a statement entitled ‘Young Trans people must have autonomy over their own care’. Brunskell-Evans said she would like to draw attention to four main points of concern within the LibDems’ statement.
Firstly, she said, the statement claimed that the court’s judgement shows ‘damaging impact of alarmist rhetoric around trans young people’, suggesting both that the judges were biased and that their concerns about puberty blockers were hyperbole.
Secondly it claimed- without producing any evidence, and in contrast to what the evidence presented to the court showed to be true- that puberty blockers are a safe and effective treatment. The party’s claim, asserts Heather, is “flying in the face of all scientific evidence’ and ‘the party has tied itself to an anti-scientific, no-evidence-based, ideological position which harms children.”
In the LibDems’ statement, she said, children were referred to six times as ‘being transgender’, not as having a condition (gender dysphoria) but as being something. The statement also suggested that children not given blockers will ‘undergo the wrong puberty’, again suggesting that ‘being trans’ is a real condition and that a young person’s body can be mismatched with an authentic, true identity’.
Terminology is important, asserted Heather, observing that “the claim for inherent transgenderism belongs to a set of unevidenced, incoherent but powerful ideas and these ideas are the foundation of LibDem policy on trans rights.”
Brunskell-Evans reminded us that LibDem leader Ed Davy & Spokesperson for Foreign Affairs and International Development Leila Moran both claim, “a woman is self-identified by the individual him/herself” ergo a transwoman is a woman and a transman is a man- because they say so.
In philosophy, clarified Brunskell-Evans, this is called an ontological statement. To say that a transwoman is a woman, not a man who identifies as a woman, is making an erroneous ‘truth claim’, a claim about reality rather than a description.
Moran is also on record as saying- which Heather suggests shows she does actually know the above not to be true- “where is the harm? It will make trans people happier and improve their mental health.’
As mentioned above, there is some dispute as to whether such treatments really do improve mental health issues, and there is certainly clear suggestion that self-identification does indeed cause harm.
Heather advocates that the harm to children is extremely serious. These ideas, she said, have emerged from queer theory over the last 30 years and lobby groups have helped to bring about a ‘reversal of reality’ which the LibDem policy reflects.
Whether one is male of female is an empirical reality, asserted Heather, and gender is a social construction. This idea is supported by different historical and cultural contexts when different expectations are placed on men and women. But in queer theory it is biological sex which is assigned rather than observed and gender identity is seen as non-social or pre-social, in a way that she described as “an inner authentic or true self almost akin to a soul”. Brunskell-Evans asked rhetorically where this theory leads us and cited the example of lobby group Gendered Intelligence (GI).
GI, who are appealing against the court decision in the Keira Bell case, claim ‘trans children are real’, and that they can have numerous different forms of identity, which Heather described as ‘a HEINZ variety of soups’. Their booklet for young people advocates that trans-identified children have an existential choice to go down one of two routes, or both. Firstly, there is the medical pathway, which the booklet illustrates with ‘crude cartoons of children and young people who have undergone surgical transition’. Or, children are told, they can transition socially: GI informs kids that within the trans community it’s identity that more important than physical reality.
Your identity is paramount, she says, quoting from the Gendered Intelligence ‘Trans Youth Sexual Health’ booklet, which tells young people:
“A woman is still a woman even if she likes getting blow jobs. A man is still a man even if he likes getting penetrated vaginally.”
“This,” Brunskell-Evans said, “is the social context in which children are finding their identities.”
The fourth ‘very troubling’ thing she found about the LibDem statement was the suggestion that those concerned about the transgendering of children, and the impact on children and young people of puberty blockers, are ‘transphobes’. In conclusion she told us:
“The accusation of transphobia doesn’t refer to phobia in the normal way we would think about it, which would be fear or hatred of trans-identified people… what is being denounced is non-compliance with a set of ideas…. In a wholly autocratic and authoritarian moot, the Liberal Democratic Party… which prides itself on liberalism, is shutting down any exploration and exchange of ideas that could contribute to a reasoned appraisal of the ethics of transgendering children.”
“That was really interesting,” observed Jenner, “and it’s kicked us off in a very forthright manner, thank you.”
Turning to Stella O’Malley, Jenner asked, “Stella, Your film ‘Trans kids” was very moving, about the goals and the outcomes of those young people who transitioned. How do you see the public understanding around dysphoria playing out?”
Stella introduced herself, saying she was a psychotherapist who had an ‘intense’ experience with what we would now call gender dysphoria between the ages of three and ten. When she looked back and wonders ‘why was I like that?’ she feels that her younger self was an ‘infernal misogynist’.
“Boys were better, boys were stronger, boys were faster. I thought girls were prissy and silly and annoying with their high voices.” She laughed, wryly. “How dare I?”
Raised in Dublin in the 70s, Stella was the only girl who wore trousers to school. “I was very bolshy,” she admits, “I was a very unhappy kid.” She says she felt ‘very compelled’ to be the way she was. She both hated and was haunted by the frequent question “are you a boy or a girl?’ and would reply ‘yes’ or ‘no’, revelling in the discomfort of the adult who had asked the question.
“When puberty hit, had I known about the concept of ‘transkids’, of the concept of puberty blockers, I would have crossed the ocean to get at them.”
Stella says she had a very driven, intense personality as a child, and that saving face and being perceived as being right were very important to her. She feels it’s important to acknowledge that a child who is ‘insistent, consistent and persistent’ (one of the criteria for a diagnosis of gender dysphoria) is expressing personality traits. The milder kids, she says, are less likely to be so intense in their pursuit of puberty blockers because of their personality rather than because of the intensity of their gender issues. This, she says, is not taken into account when treating gender dysphoric kids.
Anyone who knows anything about psychology should see the ‘insistent, consistent, persistent’ idea as a flawed concept, she added.
When O’Malley was about nine a ‘tough, boyish, amazing and very butch’ friend of her sister took her into a corner and warned her, ‘You wanna watch yourself, I was like you and it was really hard to get out of it, you wanna watch yourself.”
The girl’s words had a huge impact on, and were a pivotal moment for, Stella. She remembers realising, “I couldn’t even say the words,’ I’m in prison. I can’t get out of this’.”
For Stella, there were no puberty blockers. She describes her puberty as difficult, ‘a very dark time’ where she was ‘alienated and disconnected’ from her body. Yet post puberty, Stella says she became completely comfortable in her skin and her body. She now has two children of her own and she is “horrified by the idea that I could have been somebody who was offered these concepts and ideas when I was a vulnerable and unhappy kid.”
Describing her childhood self as ‘belligerent, insistent, very cocky, arrogant and pushy’ she adds that she knew adults were intimidated by her gender presentation. “I was very aware of my impact”.
As an adult, Stella used to say she had been a ‘tomboy’ but so many other women used that word to describe themselves she came to realise that it diminished the intensity of her experience. She knew what she had gone through was something deeper. In her 30s, she trained to be a psychotherapist and ‘wrote a few books’. She remembers noticing in the 1990s that the T had been added to the LGB and thinking “that’s insane, because sexual orientation is very different to gender identity, and why would you conflate them?”
“This was when you could speak freely, back in the old days,” she observed, adding that although she would often ask why, she never got an answer.
Around 2015/16, Stella noticed that trans issues were featured heavily in the media and she read the articles with interest, aware that had she led a different life she might have transitioned. This led her to follow the subject closely and when she saw how the concept of trans kids was evolving she wrote an article about it, despite being warned by her sister and her husband that she would be silenced and criticised.
The main point of her article was wondering if any of these kids might have been like her. As a result of the article, Channel 4 asked her to do the documentary. O’Malley told us she had been aware of the toxic environment surrounding trans issues, but thought that this was why she needed to be involved and have something to say.
If you are in the UK, the documentary is available to view free on All4 at the time of writing.
“For me, I was coming at it thinking, could any of the kids that are being now called trans kids, could any of them be like me? Was there any possibility… and if they are, what are we doing by calling them trans kids and what are we doing by giving them puberty blockers? And are we foreclosing on these kids’ options by labelling them before they should be labelled and channelling them before they should be channelled?”
Stella said she now knows that statistics show that 80% of kids that are ‘left to it’, like she was, end up being comfortable in their own skin. She reminded us that research shows that, if these kids are given puberty blockers, that 80% reduces to about 2%. She says she now knows that her hunch was right, but that she had no idea of the depth of it at the time.
“Now I know it, I’m horrified.”
Stella knows Keira Bell and says that Bell reminds her of her younger self. “She was just lost and I was lost and when you’re lost you’re vulnerable and it’s very easy to say THAT’S the solution. When people simplify your narrative you nod very quickly.”
“I went in green,” she says of her involvement in the ‘transkids’ documentary, observing that by bringing in ‘an Irish psychotherapist who didn’t know anybody’, Channel 4 had hoped they could avoid accusations of transphobia. After all, it was clear that O’Malley had no agenda.
“The numbers are so insane,” she says, referring to the huge increase in kids presenting to GIDS at the Tavistock over the last decade, the majority of whom are girls, “that you can’t get your head around it. When there’s a 5,300% rise in girls doing anything, whether it’s eating Mars bars or kicking footballs, you should be analysing it, discussing it! It should be on Newsnight, we should all be huddled around thinking about ‘why is this rise happening?’. And instead the debate is being shut down.”
Many trans-identified people and their families were interviewed for the documentary. Then the crew tried to get people from the ‘other side’ to give their views. Stella names, among others, Mermaids, Stonewall, Owen Jones, Juno Dawson, Helen Webberley and the Tavistock. None of them would talk to her.
The team were told that they had heard O’Malley was ‘problematic’.
“It was unbelievable, this feeling of being absolutely blacklisted… how could I have been problematic?” she asked us, still clearly astounded. “I was an ordinary, working psychotherapist who’d written three books on mental health. I’d had an experience and I just wanted to know… could it be that any of those girls were me? They said, ‘no, I won’t speak to her.'”
No one would speak to the film crew, despite it being a fairly prestigious project, a Channel 4 film with Emmy winning director, war correspondent Olly Lambert. Lambert later said it was harder to get people to talk about the subject of ‘trans kids’ than it was to get political leaders to discuss the issues between Israel and Palestine. When he had worked on that production, both sides of the debate had agreed on the importance of interviewing both sides, telling him ‘and so you should… that is how civilisation progresses’.
Eventually, the makers of ‘Trans Kids’ decided to make a feature of having been no platformed, acknowledging in the film their failed attempts to approach the pro-transition lobby. When the documentary was released in November 2018, O’Malley describes the push back as having been ‘quite intense’.
“I received a lot of abuse and an awful lot of horrible things happened,’ she remembers, adding that she also received ‘a lot of warmth and real support’ leading her to experience ‘a really beautiful feeling’ of sisterhood for the first time.
“People are being silenced, people are being denigrated; people are being lied about,” said Stella, “and everybody is afraid to enter the debate; everybody is afraid to say their piece say ‘hang on, what does that mean?’ Everybody is afraid to ask questions. It’s a really frightening world and once you’re in it you just think, oh my god, you could look away from this but it’s the wrong thing to do- because something really awful has unfolded here.”
O’Malley remembers during filming being told that there were transwomen in English prisons and asking, ‘surely that would be dangerous?’. She was told it was transphobic to ask that question.
After Karen White (a man) assaulted women in prison, she was told that it was transphobic to refer to White as a woman.
When women get assaulted, she observed, she will no doubt told it’s transphobic to ask if some of the most vulnerable people in society are being put at risk by these policies.
Stella now works as a therapist with detransitioners and desisters and runs meetings for the GDSN for families of people who have been impacted by gender dysphoria, including parents and siblings, some of whose lives have been ‘absolutely ripped apart’.
“I really urge people not to be frightened,” she concluded. “Join in and ask the questions that you feel you’re not allowed to ask. You might think they’re stupid questions but they’re not. You’re being silenced and you’re probably scared to speak but I really would urge people that it’s better when you do.”
Jenner thanked Stella and agreed on the importance of speaking out and asking questions ‘because we need to have answers’.
Stephanie started by saying that Stella and she had shared a very similar experience of gender dysphoria within a difficult childhood and adolescence. The most important thing for Stephanie as a child was being tough, When adolescence hit, she found herself “fighting becoming a woman, as my body completely betrayed me and I could no longer be that boy who was better and tougher than the other boys.”
Davies-Arai told us that she was going to talk about girls; specifically about that 5,300% increase in girls presenting to GIDS; about how it’s girls and women who are being silenced and the female sex that is being erased.
Stephanie’s written statement was accepted as evidence by the High Court during the judicial review mentioned earlier and commonly referred to as the ‘Keira Bell case’. In her statement she had mentioned vulnerable groups: autistic, gay & lesbian children and children with past trauma but her statement focused on girls because Keira was a girl. The judges acknowledged that the cultural context of Keira’s situation was important.
Stonewall & Mermaids were both denied permission to intervene in the case.
You can read the results of the judicial review here.
“Freedom of speech is the cornerstone of a liberal democracy,” observed Stephanie, and when speech is policed a society loses its basic human right. Over the last decade we have seen ‘the imposition of an extreme gender ideology’, one which includes the belief that a person with a penis is a woman and that biological sex is a social construction. The idea that the only true reality is gender identity is a concept with no scientific basis yet it is an ideology which has captured institutions such as the government and health and education systems.
“A belief by definition requires no proof and a faith must be followed and defended at all costs.”
Non-believers in the ideology will be punished, cancelled, threatened and intimidated; women who resist are called ‘TERFS’ and threats to kill and rape them are sanctioned. Clinics that don’t follow the model of affirmation will be shut down.
“When gender-neutral language is used, it is men who are set as the default,” observed Stephanie. “It is the female sex that is erased.” We need to be able to distinguish between the sexes but we are no longer allowed to do this. Instead we are told that any debate or question ‘erases trans people’, despite there being no evidence that this is true. So we must say that transwomen are women and we must say that a rapist is a woman. If we don’t or won’t say this, we are called ‘transphobic’. Women are now being called ‘pregnant people’ and ‘menstruators’.
“We have reached the point,” she said, “where only men can be women”.
As an example of this, JK Rowling’s support of safe spaces for women who have been subject to male violence was called ‘bigoted’ and she was vilified in the press and on social media. The reading of her essay was not that she was pro-women but that she was anti-trans. In the ensuing backlash, fans posted pictures of themselves burning her books on social media.
“Women’s speech has been silenced but men’s has not,” said Stephanie. Women are silenced while men have free reign to attack and abuse women online. She pointed out that his generation of girls is growing up learning from this. Girls are learning what they can and can’t speak about and that speaking about unique female experience and feminist discourse will mark them out as bigots.
While older women are protesting and setting up grass roots organisations, the younger generation has been indoctrinated into this view and encouraged to see ‘TERFs’ as nasty bigots. This movement, asserted Davies-Arai, is not about trans rights, but about promoting an ideology. The indoctrination takes place not only by the media and on social media platforms, but on YouTube, where hundreds of thousands of teenage girls follow ‘transition’ videos, and in schools, where young people are being taught that being a boy or girl rests entirely on identity, on feelings, and not on biological fact. Your gender identity is sold as being your authentic self, not your biological sex, “which was assigned, possibly wrongly, by an outside agency”.
Stephanie observed that the ideology is part of children’s education now. She has counted thirty books for ‘early years’ (the under-5s) about transgender children.
Davies-Arai agreed with O’Malley that there is an internalised misogyny within girls who identify as boys. The idea that “girls are weaker and silly and boys are the real people; boys are interesting; boys are the real human beings.”
There are many important biological and psychosocial difference between boys and girls during adolescence. Stephanie clarified that if we can’t speak about those things, we cannot understand them.
“To put it really crudely, boys ejaculate; girls menstruate. It says it all really. Boys find out what their bodies can do for them and hey, it’s great, it’s exciting, it opens up new vistas of experience. Girls find out what their bodies do to them, which is painful and embarrassing and shameful: you can’t talk about periods… It’s a completely different experience.”
Stephanie was clear that she is not suggesting that boys sail through puberty with no issues, but that the difference between boys and girl in biological change at puberty is massive.
“ A boy’s world expands in puberty: his body grows in strength… whereas a girl’s world shrinks… girls tend to give up sport because they’re embarrassed, the development of breasts and hips is so much more visible… suddenly for girls their bodies become public property, they can be shouted at, commented on sexually harassed, touched and abused.”
Girls go from being a human being to becoming an object, a thing, and learning that the most important thing about them is their looks; whether they measure up to the ideal ‘sexy and hot’ girl portrayed as desirable in the media. The pressure on girls to pay large amounts of time to their appearance has grown exponentially in the last few decades. Davies-Arai says it is no secret that this has become more so with the advent of online porn, especially porn accessed on phones in schools. Girls often lose their ambition at puberty, and the sexualisation of girls begins at an ever younger age.
As the market for ‘pinkification’ and gendered toys and clothing has grown, so stereotyping of both boys and girls has increased. Davies-Arai said she is surprised that there is no regulation of marketing within the childhood toy, clothing & book industries.
“We have known for some time of the detrimental and devastating effect on girls of sexualisation and objectification,” reported Stephanie, referring both to the APA taskforce on the effects of sexualisation of girls and Linda Papadopoulos’ report, requested by the Home Secretary in 2010, which “foresaw the mainstreaming of the sex industry and the spread of mainstream pornography”. The ubiquitous nature of violent pornography not only damages the mental health of girls but also results in increased assaults against them.
“Effects include lack of confidence, shame, anxiety, self-disgust, low self-worth, depression, negative mood, eating disorders negative mood & body image, body disassociation and self-objectification, self-harming behaviours, increased vulnerability to seek cosmetic surgery…. these are exactly the same co-morbities that we’re seeing in adolescent girls being referred to the Tavistock.”
More than 1/3 girls in secondary in the UK have suffered sexual harassment and 24% experienced unwanted sexual touching, added Stephanie, adding wryly that if society really wanted to do something about this, then it would. This generation is growing up with porn culture & a culture of sexual abuse where men can define & represent girls in any way, without sanction.
“Who would want to grow up to be a woman when women are the sex who are violated and sexually abused and even tortured in porn for the sexual entertainment of men? How is that allowed? Girls are routinely objectified in the media and sexually harassed and abused in schools. Girls who want to be treated as full human beings now have a way to do that – they can become boys. When a girl identifiesas a boy what she’s really doing is identifying as a human being”.
Stephanie explained why the Tavistock fails to understand why it is overwhelmingly adolescent girls that are being referred to them: became they’ve been captured by an ideology that fails to distinguish between the sexes – it cannot do so, because that would be transphobic. So the Tavistock runs a gender neutral service based on an ideological belief, and an ideological belief requires no evidence.
“Girls are being totally failed by a system that fails to recognise them as the female sex and therefore fails to recognise any of the unique disadvantages of being female and the devastating effect on girls’ mental health and wellbeing, all factors which bring girls to the clinic.”
Davies-Arai concluded by agreeing with Brunskell-Evans: she was surprised that the LibDems supported such a deeply illiberal movement and ideology.
Jenner asked Stella and Heather if they had any comment on Stephanie’s words.
“Stephanie has captured something that is really serious about this,” mused Heather, “and that is that that if the Tavi & other gender identity clinics place biology second to identity then biology becomes unimportant and we can change it if we want.”
She also agreed that the impact of sex neutral language was resulting in some girls who ‘just wanted to be seen as human’ identifying as boys.
The lack of recognition of the social context in which girls and boys are living their lives is a direct result of queer theory, added Brunskell-Evans.
“Queer theory is about how gender is constructed through language rather than in the material world, in reality… when we say we are whoever we want to be, we lose the social context and the power relations in which gender is lived. It becomes void, it is almost edited out of queer theory.”
Stephanie agreed, giving the example that the Tavistock operates with a complete contradiction: one which claims that identity is all, yet encourages girls to think they can get a boy’s body. We might well ask then, she adds, ‘how do we know it’s a boy’s body?’.
“What I find troubling,” said Heather, “is that the whole practice is riven with contradictions and we’re not allowed to even point the contradictions out! Strangely, society seems captured and reproduces the contradictions without reflecting on them… it’s utterly bizarre. That metaphor of the Emperor is very pertinent here… the theory is naked, it has no substance to it, it’s completely illogical.
“That’s the thing about queer theory,” added Stella. “Because it’s all based on language, they haven’t bothered to base any substance in their arguments. They just think ‘I’ll be very clever with language so if I say I’m a boy, I’m a boy’, and that’s as far as it goes… People with an ideology they want to sell, they just focus on the language and dismiss the substance behind it in an extraordinary sleight of hand… It’s as if a sort of trick has been played and everybody’s afraid to say but the Emperor has no clothes… the people calling it out are getting such abuse that other people are scared to join with them. But there’s a great concept of ‘the crowd are watching the crowd’ and that’s how all revolutions start, that’s how movements happen. The crowd starts listening to the crowd.”
A woman mentioned her trans-identified young-adult son has returned home with medication after just one visit to the Tavistock. He is over the age of consent, but she has been consulting with her GP who referred him there, she wondered: is there a code of conduct and responsibility that GPs can be held to?
The panel seemed unsure, they didn’t know the health system well enough to be able to answer that question, although they agreed there should be some route to challenge both private and NHS care. It was acknowledged that a GP has a responsibility to do no harm and suggested that she might want to approach the GMC.
“It’s a difficult position you’re in there,” agreed Stella, “Until harm is done, how can you say harm will be done? That’s the problem, people aren’t getting the appropriate care they should be getting.”
Learning from mistakes
Someone asked about the Cumberland report, an investigation into harmful medications and critical of the NHS. The title was ‘first do no harm’ but this report was not mentioned in discussions of the Tavistock, had it had impact on treatment for young people?
The panel had not seen anything linking the report and the Tavistock, but Stephanie said that “treatment of gender dysphoria in young people is the biggest medical scandal we could possibly imagine. We’re allowing children to be sterilised and lose normal sexual function along with all sorts of other permanent effects on their health, their bodies and their appearance.”
The medical profession does make mistakes, she observed, and when it does it attempts to rectify them. It provides treatment based on available research and if bad effects are revealed by further research, then treatment plans are changed. She reminded us that we are going through that process now, through the courts.
“Children have been politicised,” observed Davies-Arai. “The transgender child is the politicised emblem of a movement, not an individual child. The transgender child is separate from everything we know about children, about child psychology, about child development, about adolescent identity development. Everything we know, including the research on gender dysphoric children themselves before puberty- which we do know something about, which is that most would grow up to be gay.”
Heather said the question was heartening in that it held an assumption that the Tavistock would learn from medical mistakes, which she doubted.
“The Tavistock is so ideologically captured it doesn’t learn from its own mistakes; it doesn’t learn from the evidence which is put before it,” added Heather. “The Tavistock is completely unconvinced it has done anything wrong, it is going to the court of appeal in June to try to repeal the ruling of the court about puberty blockers… it is social justice which is the most important thing for the Tavistock rather than empirical evidence. They know that children are going to be sterilised by being given hormone treatment but they think it is worth it because there is a larger aim – social justice for the children who they imagine are actually transgender.”
Really, she concluded, it isn’t a question of irrationality but a completely different conceptual and ethical framework, “which is so far removed from what we are talking about here tonight.”
Avoiding a scandal?
Susan Matthews observed that she had been struck by the fact that the ‘very brilliant QC’ Fenella Morris, counsel to the report which looked into three medical scandals which all affected women, had been hired by the Tavistock for the judicial review. She suggested the action seemed to suggest they might be trying to defend themselves against a comparable scandal.
“We need to recognise the ideology itself is completely dehumanising,” added Stephanie, agreeing that a scandal was looming. “If you say a boy or a girl is an abstract concept in somebody’s head and biological sex, the body, doesn’t matter. If the body doesn’t matter, doesn’t really exist, we just made it up, then fertility doesn’t matter. Sexual function doesn’t matter.”
When we says the body is not important we are free to abuse it because it has no relevance: identity is disassociated from the body. Gender ideology disembodies us. And young people live so many hours every day in a virtual reality (online), where they can have an avatar that’s male or female, or an animal – this all adds to this idea that reality is subjective & there is a choice.
Risk & Reward
A question was asked about how to balance risk and reward when we want to make a big impact but are concerned about minimising the risk to ourselves?
Stephanie said that within the family, kids deserve us to be truthful, we shouldn’t be afraid to point out when there’s a difference of opinion. Be matter of fact about stuff that’s true, not getting into emotional reaction. Don’t get pulled into exchange or accusation and don’t lecture them or tell them what to think- but you can tell them what you think.
When dealing with schools, be clear and direct but respectful. We worry too much about being accused of transphobia, but talking about child development and biological sex is just talking about facts- your child’s right to be taught Biology for example. It should be possible to have a discussion without getting into a debate.
Stella added that when dealing with schools you can point out there are two schools of thought: that gender identity is innate, and that gender roles are imposed upon us. We can say,“you’re entitled to your belief and I’m entitled to mine and we can still talk.” This can allow for discussion.
Many teachers don’t even realise they’ve fallen into a belief system.
Misogyny and porn
Another question was ‘what can we do about the ubiquity of porn and its damaging effects?’
Stephanie referred to the numerous porn sites introducing young boys to criminal content, teens, coercion, incest; how all these things were available just with a click. Double or triple penetration, anal, women throwing up, this is all marketed as sexual entertainment for men.
We protect children from sex clubs, she pointed out, but the internet is our new public square and porn is ‘prominent on the high street of our virtual world’. Online, we don’t have regulations to protect children and ‘teen’ is the search term most put into Google by porn hunters.
“Why should it be a basic right of men to watch the abuse of women?” asked Stephanie. She added that it ‘says everything’ about women’s status in society that they are seen as objects to be used. She commended the work of Gail Dines, observing, ‘ it’s women, and women’s groups, who are putting in all the work to challenge this, it’s not the government, it’s not society as a whole asking questions of itself.’
‘There’s a relationship between gender identity ideology and pornography,” asserted Heather. “It’s as if people don’t see the harms to women- from men entering women’s sports for example. It’s not seen as part of a men’s rights movement, but as ‘poor men they identify as women’ and the rights are with them, not with women. It’s the same with pornography. If we question pornography we’d have to question men again, we’d have to question male sexuality & ask why is male sexuality constructed in such a way that they get pleasure out of domination and sexual violence. These questions are very destablising for society.”
She referred to a discussion she had seen on Twitter where an attempt to discuss if it was fair for ‘transwomen’ to be in women’s sport was dismissed as hate speech and the organisation Fair Play for Women(FPFW) was characterised as a hate movement. The same dynamics, she said, occur when discussing pornography.
“ I do think of transactivism as a men’s rights movement…” said Heather. “It isn’t an equal opportunity exercise. When men identify as women, the impact on women is massive. When women identify as men the impact on men is negligible. We have to recognise that. Men wouldn’t put up with what women have to put up with – and nobody would expect them to. Can you imagine men being expected to stop calling themselves men?”
Getting the message out
Another attendee said that people in real life are horrified by, for example, men in women’s prison. It’s different to online. How do we get the message out there?
Stephanie reminded us that when FPFW talked to members of the public about the GRA, 95% of people were shocked to hear the implications of being able to self-ID as a woman. People had no idea that the issue was not really about ‘trans rights’ but about extreme gender identity ideology. For some people it’s impossible to speak out, but it is possible to do little things when you can. Speaking out in little ways is still doing a great job!
Heather agreed, and pointed out that there are two different things going on. People do understand its unjust for a man to compete in a woman’s sport, but what people think about children is very different. They think that there really must be children born in the wrong body or a NHS clinic would not be transing them!
“It’s difficult to persuade people that the NHS has been ideologically captured and we have work to do there.”
The Keira Bell case has shifted the narrative & brought it to the public eye. Heather expressed concern about what may happen at the court of appeal: if the ruling is overthrown those who objected will be seen as ‘transphobic’. The judge’s decision has already been called part of a backlash against trans rights.
“However,” she adds, “once the pack of cards starts to fall, it will fall quickly and we will look back and wonder how we ever tolerated such barbarism.”
Stella said the situation reminded her of when the Berlin wall fell. A journalist went out there to try to interview people who agreed with the regime but suddenly he couldn’t find them. Everybody was apparently against it and had been all along. She foresees the same thing happening when gender ideology is exposed. Currently, people aren’t aware of the heavy burden involved in transition, or of the existence of detransitioners.
“People think it’s a 21st century version of gay and an opportunity to show how kind and liberal they are. That’s how far they’re thinking.”
Facing the Future
Finally: what hope is there for the LibDems?
A party member said she was surprised by the party position, that the party’s usual rational focus on data and evidence all goes out of the window on this issue. Another party member agreed, she had stood for parliament and had complaints made against her because of her concerns about this issue. She spoke of the ‘self-delusion and cowardice of the people who lead us’ and her ‘daily struggle’.
A candidate for a by-election in a major city said she didn’t feel she could really speak out about the issue. She knew she had to be careful about what she said and exercise an element of self-preservation.
“If I’m going to say stuff,” said another, “I have to allow people to have the free will to hate me for it, and if they want to attack me for it, fair enough. As long as I’m heard.”
“We’re liberals,” added another, “we’re used to discussion and debate and all these different points of view. That’s our strength.” She emphasised the importance of making factual points, with decency and respect & backed up with evidence. The more people speak out, the more others can speak out. “Little things are stepping stones.”
After a few more minutes discussion, Alison said if there were no more questions she’d like to thank Heather, Stella and Stephanie “so much, for an interesting session and a really stimulating conversation, in a time when we’re able to speak freely.”
The next event, she said, would be on 10th of May and those who signed up to email list at liberalvoiceforwomen.org would have first opportunity to get a ticket.
“We’d like to hear from you all with women friendly issues or problems that you’d like us to raise. Thank you to all of you who’ve attended, to our organisers and technical staff, but most of all to Stephanie, Heather & Stella for a wonderful evening.”